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I needed this reminder this morning.  Hope it can help someone else too!  Have a great week everyone!

I have learned over the years that perception plays a major part in our relationships with others and ourselves.  It plays an intricate role in our careers, the flow of money into our lives, and our enjoyment of our lives.  Maintaining a positive attitude is crucial to the colors we paint the perceptions of our lives.

Have you ever had a goal or dream that moved you so much you could hardly sleep at night?  We start out so excited and motivated by our great idea.  But, we allow ourselves to begin to focus on the negative aspects of them.  Before long, we have relegated our exciting idea to the should have, could have and would have part of our brain.  At that point, our idea is officially dead.

If we don’t cultivate our positive attitudes about our idea, we will begin the process of talking ourselves out of it.  We start out with little things, such as doubt that we can even accomplish it.

For instance, when we charge into the world of being an entrepreneur starting our own business, we can start some stinking thinking, such as, it takes too long to make money doing this.  There isn’t a quick money fix like there is when we start a traditional job.  Sometimes, we even slide into flawed thinking of telling ourselves that people like us just don’t make it big!

Here are a few pointers on how to keep ourselves positive so we can reap the rewards of success in our lives:

BE KIND AND ENCOURAGING TO OURSELVES – Instead of picking out our own faults and hammering ourselves about them, choose to focus on our attributes.  Think kindly of ourselves.  I believe that we are harder on ourselves than on anyone else.  We should be as kind to ourselves as we are to our partners, friends, or even our pets.  Words of encouragement to ourselves is very beneficial for all our endeavors.  If we learn to love ourselves more and are kinder to ourselves we can accomplish unbelievable things.

PLUG INTO DAILY MOTIVATION – The average person drives 12,000 to 25,000 miles per year, which works out to 500 to 1,000 hours per year.  we  can plug in a motivational CD into our car every time we get behind the wheel.  Think how much more motivated and positive we would be!  We could be rolling around in our classroom on wheels.  Learning new things while we keep our positive attitude going.

KEEP LEARNING OUR CRAFT – Knowing more keeps us feeling better about what we are doing.  We can attend seminars and online training sessions in our field of endeavor.  Learn from the experts.  Write to those experts; ask questions, read their books and articles.  Listen to people with proven track records in the areas we are striving to succeed.

HANG OUT WITH THE RIGHT PEOPLE – Did you realize that your income will be the average of the 4-5 people you associate with on a regular basis?  Instead of hanging out with the negative complainers and gossipers, we could choose to hang out with the people that are succeeding and are practicing success habits.

CLARITY AND VISUALIZATION – Clearly defined goals are a must.  We have to have a clear mental picture of what we want our lives to look like.  It is difficult to achieve something if we don’t know what it is or what it will look like when it is achieved.

The best time to reach our subconscious minds is to implant our visualized images of our goals first thing in the morning before getting out of bed.  Or, right before falling asleep at night.  Our subconscious minds are more open to programming at those times.  The subconscious mind is activated by affirmations and pictures we feed it in the present tense.

Picture in your mind the situations working out the way you want.  See yourself succeeding.  Some people use vision boards or journals as a good visualization tool.  I know people who keep their vision boards on the ceiling in their bedrooms so they can feast their eyes on the dreams when they first open their eyes!  I keep ours on the bathroom wall across from the toilet.  Be creative!

Keep in mind, all our dreams and goals are unique to each of us.  It is up to each of us to keep striving for them.  After all, when it is all said and done, it is about our own individual successes.  No one can make it happen for us.  We should keep feeding our own personal positive attitude muscle.  Like all muscles, they only get strong when we keep using them.  Let’s get out there and exercise them!

Nan has been studying self improvement for over 20 years. She has been involved with two start up companies, from ground zero to profitability. Responsible for hiring and training their sales forces, and ongoing development of sales strategies as the businesses matured. Nan is the author of the popular 7 Day Goal Setting Course, For more articles read Nan’s blog:


Last week a direct sales consultant emailed me about a problem she was having with a few of her fellow team mates and asked me for my advice. Before I go any further with this post let me just state that she has given me permission to discuss the topic here on my blog (without using her name or the company’s name). So, here we go!

Gossiping about fellow team members is really not a good thing to do at all. While you all might be friends with one another now…that doesn’t mean you all will be friends a year from now.

When friendships or business relationships end, often times it leads to bitterness, anger, jealousy and a whole host of other feelings. These type of negative feelings can come out and ‘rear’ their ugly head and you can end up regretting something you said to someone else in confidence.

This consultant told me how she and 6 others were having a networking brainstorming session at a local coffee shop last October and somehow the conversation with her fellow teammates turned into a bashing session in regards to 2 other teammates who were not in attendance.

Well, last month something happened and some friendships (business relationships) ended and 2 of these team members went and told the other 2 who were gossiped about what was said about them. As you can imagine, this whole thing has now snow-balled into one big nasty mess!

I think it was really unprofessional of everyone who attended the little pow-wow networking session to have turned it into a bashing and gossiping session. With that said, it is even worse that 2 of those folks have now went on and turned against the other ones and has told the “gossip” to the 2 who it was about…but of course…made it all sound like they just sat there and didn’t participate in it. ugh!!!

I think there is a very good lesson to be learned here and that is…Just like friendships that come & go and end badly…business relationships come and go and also end badly. You should NEVER say anything about team members (negative in nature) that might come back to bite you in the butt down the road.

Great lesson and I hope everyone remembers this if they are ever put into this position that they should just excuse themselves from the conversation and just leave. PERIOD.

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As a Direct Sales Manager, I can personally tell you that managing a large team can be a difficult balancing act. It all boils down to being organized as a leader.

I recommend that you create a business schedule. On this schedule, you want to mark off blocks of time, where you will be working on specific tasks, relating to managing your team. Here are the 6 tasks you need to focus on.

1. Communication. – As a leader, it’s your job to communicate with your group. This communication can be done by phone, email, postal mail, and in-person local meetings. I recommend that you communicate with your members once a week.

2. Motivation and Encouragement. - Dream boards are excellent tools for staying on track and providing motivation. Teach your consultants how to use dream boards. It could be as simple as…when you wake up in the morning walk over to your dream board and say out loud with confidence while pointing to the items “I want to drive a Mercedes Benz”. “I want to put a down payment on a new home within 6 months,” and so on. When they are done, have them list their goals for today only. They are going to learn how to grow their business one day at a time, so the goals should be attainable. Encourage them to forge ahead to make it happen.

3. Professionalism. – As a leader, it is your job to set forth a professional example. A strong and healthy team is built on professionalism. I recommend keeping your relationship with members on a business level.

4. Share Your Knowledge. – If you are building a downline, it is your job to help train them. You can hold one on one or group training sessions at your home or at another location. The more time you spend educating and training your team about the business, the more successful they will be.

5. Time. – Give the gift of ‘time’ to your team. You need to realize that a certain amount of time every day needs to be spent on working with your downline. This can be in the form of training, answering emails, taking phone calls, publishing a newsletter, assisting them with parties and offering your help when they need it.

6. Reward and Appreciation. – Reward your consultants for a job well done. When they reach goals or milestones within the business, reward them with a gift that you have personally selected for them. This shows that you appreciate them and their hard work. In addition, it can provide a great incentive for them to achieve the next level.

Managing a team isn’t hard nor difficult, it just requires your time and some organizational skills. If you build a strong relationship with your consultants, they will respond in a positive way.

Shelly Hill has been working from home in Direct Sales since 1989. Shelly is a Manager with Tupperware.
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